Last night my bestie wrote one the quotes I'm very familiar with on my facebook's timeline (yes folks! Get a facebook timeline, facebook wall is so last year!), anyway, she said;
"The best revenge is to be successful, is to stay strong and move forward in life; never stop, never give up, never take a step back"
So I went through all the wise words tweets I saved during the second time I broke up with Mr.C, one the tweet says exactly have the same point with what my bestie wrote on my fb, it says;
"Best revenge? H a p p i n e s s, because nothing drives people more crazy than seeing someone is actually having a f**king good life"
Those quotes make me think. Really? Do we really need to be heartbroken to realized that we have to be successful, and happy? NO, WE DON'T!! Everyone deserves to be successful and happy in their lifes! We don't need The heartbreaking event to make us able to have that kind of good life!
We can plan our life, set up our goals, dreams, and hopes. Not giving up, keep moving forward and get what we want! We are so capable of it! But the thing is, sometimes we are too comfortable with our life and forgot that God has created us for a purpose, also we are too comfortable to step out of our comfort zone and pursue our purpose of living, therefore, we might need those hearbreaking event to wake us up in a hard way so we will start moving towards our goals.
Then here's the 'what if' questiones arise.
What if I already had all my life planned perfectly? What if I had arranged the chronology of my goals and when will I achieve them, I had all my dreams, and my purpose in their place? and what if suddenly! Without me asking for it, I met a guy unexpectedly, I fell for him, I loved him so much but I have to sacrifice my plans? What should I do?
Here's what I learned (in a very hard way) from my relationship with Mr.C. I never asked for a boyfriend during my study period in Autralia, and we even met randomly while we both queued for the lobster promo in the Casino.
When I got in to a relationship with Mr.C I made so many changes and adjustments for my future and all of them- I repeat ALL OF MY FUTURE PLANS had Mr.C in it. I never thought or imagined my life without Mr.C, and that's why I was devastated when we broke up. (I know I haven't finished the whole story yet but trust me, it didn't go anywhere near 'good ending')
I gave everything that I have, I compromised with myself for Mr.C, hence when he left, I had nothing. I had nothing to look forward to, I had nothing to pursue, I had nothing to accomplish. No wonder I was so freaking depressed! Oh! Just to make it clear, Mr.C hardly asked me to give up any of my dreams or goals, I did. So it's none of his fault, the only thing he broke is the 'forever' promise. That's all.
The conclusion I could draw from my past experience is never-ever give your everything to someone, even if you love the person with all your heart! NEVER!
Yes, you should make some adjustments and changes to have your path and your partner path synchronized, but NEVER give up your own goals and dreams even if you could see both of you stay together forever. No one knows what could happen.
So in case when the undesirable end comes, both of you couldn't stay together anymore with any kind of reasons, you won't left with nothing. Yes, it will still hurt you and tear you to pieces, but! It'll hurt less than when you have given all you have and left with nothing. When you keep some of your own goals and dreams without your partner in them. You still have something to look forward to even when you guys aren't together anymore.
The 'revenge' idea to move on might seems good at the beginning and it'll motivate you enough to really do move forward, but when you still focus on the 'revenge' a.k.a your enemy, ex, frenemy, rival. You won't go as far as you could when you make yourself as the focus. If you still want the revenge, then you haven't moved on at all.
Never give up on hope!
You deserve to be happy! To be successful! To be brilliant! And to be anything you want to be!
If you have read this post, make sure you won't make the same mistake that I did, trust me, learning it in a hard way wasn't great at all.
Set you goals, dream your dreams, plan you way, and get it done!
Do not compromise, do not hesitate.
God has made us all beautiful in our own ways and He has planned a fabulous 'happy ending' for each of us!
"Keep you sight focused on God, be patient and watch the exciting things that God will do in your life."
xoxo
Ms. A
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